Lauriewrites makes a fine distinction on why we chose to focus on "chosen family'.
She says, "chosen family"- can become the focus. And in many cases where we have the usual mixed bag of good and bad related to our birth families, friends are still a necessary extension of our most significant ties.
She is right in a way but unfortunately like all of us falls into the trap of considering friends and other 'outside' the family members to be the "chosen family".
I am intrigued by why we in general fail to consider our spouses, be it a wife or a husband as "chosen family". After all, we chose them. Why don't we put in the same amount of time and energy into nurturing this relationship?
It is high time we considered our spouses as "chosen family" and put in time and energy into nurturing that relationship.